I'm a 19-year-old guy, entering my third year of college.When I finished high school, I felt led by God to commit to not date for two years and to spend that time growing closer to Him.While you might be feeling stressed or panicked, if you can take a beat, you’ll see that the person who is possibly rushing you is likely doing it with good, pure intentions.**Side note, if this is not the case and you’re feeling pressured into anything you’re not comfortable with, put that pretty foot down now and acknowledge that behavior head-on. You're so comfortable that you have cute pet names for each other. You aren't planning the future but you are also not discussing the past. The real middle, not the one you jump into after a week of dating. When we skip building the foundation of a relationship, we build it on shaky ground. You can take your shoes off, wear the same shirt for two days, lay on the couch, eat Cheetos and ice cream for dinner. And while this may be true, it's also a place that can lead to rejection, pain, isolation and loneliness.He was so cute, fun, energetic and just plain crazy – all the requirements of someone who I am attracted to. There was such desperation on both sides to find someone and find them . I had always heard that this is how it could happen. He was in seminary, loved to witness to others, had a great personality and boy could he kiss. Within 24 hours of meeting Jack, I was in the middle. The show followed the lives of 12 women, and as I watched, I noticed a consistent need to jump into the "middle" of a relationship.
I would learn later of how much being in the middle would cost us both.So how do we align our speeds so that everyone feels happy and comfortable without ruining the momentum entirely? Usually, I think the culprit for things moving too fast is excitement.So even acknowledging that can be a helpful first step.She just needed accountability, and I would do that for her if she wanted.She wound up not joining FOCUS; I don’t think she did the fast on her own, either.